The Joy Project

Little Moments of Big Love

Kid President

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less travelled, AND IT HURT, MAN!”

On of my favorite shows, The Office,  is ending this season after nine years on the air. I saw an interview with one of the main actors, Rainn Wilson, and he talked about how sad he was to be ending this chapter in his life, but how excited to he was to try new things, and be known for something different. It really made me think twice about how bummed I had been to leave a job that really defined me. I’m so scared to put myself back out there; what if people don’t like the new version of me? What if I fail? What if it’s boring?  But I can’t imagine how scary it would be if everyone in the whole world knew me as that character on TV, and then to go try to do something new. Thank goodness I’m not Phoebe on Friends or Dr. McDreamy on Grey’s Anatomy, or Alf on that show Alf. I get the luxury to redefine myself, however I want (as long as I can still pay my mortgage).

Anyhoo, Rainn Wilson, the guy from The Office, decided to take this opportunity to start a new project called, a website dedicated to thinking about life’s Big Questions, and also bring more Joy to the world. It’s right up my alley. One of my favorite parts of Soul Pancake is a series of videos called Kid President, that are inspiring and funny. I love this! Rainn could have been sad that his tv show and way of life was ending, but instead he’s trying something new, putting himself out there, bringing joy to the universe.

Here is one of my favorite videos by Kid President, called A Pep Talk. I dedicate it to you:


It is yet another reminder that we were made to be Awesome. Let’s get out there! I know what it feels like to get stuck, to waste days, to wonder where January went, or the last year. If we keep waiting till we’re thinner, or richer, or we get that job or that boyfriend, or it’s easier or we’re not sick or our lives calm down, we’re wasting our days. “The world needs you to stop being boring.”

So go do something Awesome today!

PS: Watch the other Kid President videos. They are the BEST!


First Blush











One Week And Counting…




I have officially been unemployed for one week.

I’m surprisingly mostly great so far (minus the part where I drank one glass of wine too many at my work going-away party and then came home, took my pants off in the living room and ate a hot dog while sobbing; that was just weird, but I’m hoping it was a one-time-deal).

I haven’t made any big decisions about my life yet, and so far I haven’t had any giant revelations.

But I have had lots of time to be quiet and think and it’s funny what has bubbled up:

1.  I am going to stop saying I’m “unemployed” and instead refer to it as my “career-change-a-palooza” or “seeking divine career intervention”. I’d say “life change” but that makes me sound like I am going through menopause. I’m also going to stop saying “I don’t have any money” or “I’m not making any money”  because then the universe won’t send me more money. But if we’re out together and I say “oh, no let me get the check, I am totally flush with cash”, it’s only because I am thinking positively and you can still pay for my wine.

2. I thought I would be afraid of the unknown of being unemployed. Turns out the thing I fear most is getting offered another office job. I want to work from home, or work from Mexico, or only work half the year, or work 12 hours a day because I’m so inspired, and write and create, and run and cook. I’m scared someone is going to offer me a really great office job and I’ll feel guilty if I decline it, and sad if I take it.

3. The dirty workout clothes in my hamper finally out number the business lady pants! Hooray for no more “business casual”!

4. I need a guru. Or a mentor. My own personal Oprah. I have no idea how to stop mid-stream and swim in another career direction. Who are the gutsy women who can show me the way?

5. Batteries…they’re weird, right? Also, what’s the deal with fax machines? You put paper in a machine and then it sends the message to another piece of paper OVER THE PHONE? That’s crazy. (I had to change the batteries in my mouse and that got me to thinking. It might also be a sign that I have too much free time.)

6. The universe is pretty fantastic. And it’s all connected. I’m certain it will take care of me if I just let it.



Newly Engaged

On 12.12.12 Don proposed and I accepted! We are becoming a family.

My sister just brought her son into the world. He is made of parts of me.

We’ve been looking at old family photos and talking who would come to weddings and who has his eyes.

It’s made my really think about family and the adding and the joining and the bringing in of new people and the losing of others.

This video seems particularly important to me today. And especially this lyric: Always remember, there was nothing worth sharing, like the love that let us share our name.

If You Are Sad…Spread The Light





Ballons fly in air as newlywed couples celebrate their mass wedding in conjunction with the date 12.12.12 outside a Chinese temple in Kuala Lumpur on December 12, 2012. Some 200 couples gathered at the temple to attend a grand colourful wedding ceremony on December 12, 2012, which many in Asia marks an auspicious date on the calendar. (AFP Photo / Saeed Khan)

Balloons fly in air as newlywed couples celebrate their mass wedding in conjunction with the date 12.12.12 outside a Chinese temple in Kuala Lumpur on December 12, 2012. Some 200 couples gathered at the temple to attend a grand colourful wedding ceremony on December 12, 2012, which many in Asia marks an auspicious date on the calendar. (AFP Photo / Saeed Khan)


Today is the last day most anyone of us will see a sequential date in our lifetimes; December 12, 2012: 12.12.12

Some people believe the date brings luck or romance. Chapels in Las Vegas are sold out today (luck and romance!) Many parents scheduled Cesarian for today. There is a benefit concert for Hurricane Sandy victims. I’m going to try a new soup recipe for dinner.

But even if you aren’t starting a new marriage or a new venture, today carries special energy and many believe, it is the beginning of a new chapter of healing and transformation, on both a personal and global level.

Set your intentions today for the good things you want in your future. Start the thing you’ve always wanted to do. Send out your prayers to the world. Give gratitude for the gifts you have already been given. Leverage all this positivity for change and growth in your own life, and ask for joy and love for the planet.

Think of it as a big ol’ megaphone multiplying your thoughts and dreams. What message do you want out there? Is it one of love? Of health? Of financial success or personal freedom? A new motorcycle or strong calve muscles? Today is the day to ask for it, and start taking action towards it.

Some things to think about:

The established order of things is rarely the source of new beginnings. -Marianne Williamson

A year from now, you’ll wish you had started today. -Karen Lamb



Happy 12.12.12. to you.

PS: if you feel so inclined, I would love to hear what goal or dream or intention you are asking for today. Leave a note in the comments section and I will be sure to think good thoughts for you.


The Big Top




I find this photo to be very romantic.

But I also find circuses and poverty and Johnny Cash and lobsters (they mate for life!) to be romantic, so judge for yourself…

Yes, You.












Good Sportsmanship

As you know, I was recently laid off from my long-time, dream-job, job. But it isn’t effective until January, so every day I put on my work lady pants and I go to the office and I work and I work and I smile and I turn in the spreadsheet and I wrap up all the details and I smile and I work. Occasionally I stay home in my bathrobe and watch internet TV but mostly I work and I smile.

Several of my co-workers have commented on how graceful and productive I have remained despite having been kicked in the emotional groin, and they ask me how I do it.

I wish I could say “my faith” or “my belief that everything happens for a reason”, or even “my excellent upbringing”.

But really it’s that TV show “The Voice”.

Yes, I watch it. And I love it. And every week the show features these beautiful young creatures who have left it all behind to give singing a shot, and they’ve sung their hearts out on stage and told the whole world how their father’s always wanted them to be an accountant but they chose singing instead or how their mothers work three jobs just so that they could have singing lessons or how singing literally saved their lives from some sad fatal disease. And after all that, the beautiful young creatures have to stand up on the stage and bite their lips and twist their hands and cast their eyes downward and wait to hear if America has voted to let them stay.

And then BOOM. They get voted off the show. IN FRONT OF ALL OF AMERICA. AND CHRISTINA AGUILERA.

And then the host asks if they have any last words. Sometimes they cry or worse, get angry.

But a lot of the times they just say how grateful they are for the experience. They say how this isn’t the end of the road for them. They are gonna keep singing! They say “Thank you America!”

That’s how I learned to be grateful in the face of defeat. I’ve been voted off the proverbial work island, but when I leave, I want people to think “That girl is one classy broad. She’s gonna be just fine.”

Also helpful, are all my years playing as a child on really terrible soccer teams. We mostly always lost, but no matter what, win or lose, our coach always made us walk over to the other team, shake hands with each of our competitors and say “Good game, good game.” Even when I got pelted in the face with direct kick I still had to say “good game.”

At work, most days lately I feel like this on the inside:

But I just think of Christina Aguilera and mutter “good game, good game” to myself and I look like a graceful swan on the outside.

Same Love

Please watch this beautiful video…


A high school teacher was recently suspended without pay for showing her students this video “about being gay”.

I think the video is about Equality.

And Love.

And about being true yourself, but still standing up for those who are different from you.

And Love.

I think all young people should see this video. And I think all young people should get to feel proud of who they are, whoever they are.

“No Freedom till we’re equal. Damn right I support it.”


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